The Other Side of the Glass

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The trailer

Sunday, December 17, 2006

When They Know What They Know and Do It Anyway

On today,

From Lee Passman:

Amy, you were replying to *my* post, and I did not mention neonatal mortality. I had a look at the butcherer's newspaper, ObgynNews. But even there one finds a ton of information how harmful c-sections are:
Elective C-section Revisited; Dr. Elaine Waetjen; August 1, 2002
C-Section Linked to Stillbirth in Next Pregnancy, 05/15/03
Maternal Morbidity Rises Sharply with Repeat Cesareans, 03/15/05
Prior C-Section Assoc. with Worse Outcomes – ICU Admit, postpartum infection, 03/01/05
Study Shows Elective Cesarean Riskier than Vaginal Delivery, 05/01/04
Asthma Associated with Planned Cesarean, 05/14/03
Cesarean Birth Associated with Adult Asthma, 06/15/01;
Steep Rise Seen in “No [Medical] Risk Primary C-Sections, 01/01/05
Offering C-Section ‘On Demand’ Can Be Ethical: ACOG, 12/01/03
Cesarean Rate Portends Rise in Placenta Accreta, 03/01/01
Placental Invasion on the Increase – hike in C-Section may be responsible, 01/15/03
Placenta Previa, C-Section History Up Accreta Risk, 09/15/01

A vaginal birth clears the baby's lungs and stimulates the hormones. C-sections are profitible. Premature births are HUGELY profitable.

Safe Baby Partners:

A human being has in "inherent blue print for health" (Osteopathy). That plan includes the biologically, neurologically programmed need to begin labor and to work in relationship with his mother throughout labor and birth. The baby is known in science to send the hormonal signal to the mother that begins labor.

Induction is a serious disruption of this process and has severe consequences -- it is showing up in the behaviors and health of our children. Narcotics further interfere with the mother and baby working together. Mother is DRUG IMPAIRED. The drug gets to baby, so baby is also impaired --- while doing the most important and defining, foundational process of his life and their relationship. BIRTHING from his mother's womb to becoming a physiologically separate being IS the FIRST and most defining action of the human's lifetime.

WHAT is goin' on in this society that this one, single act is so minimized and so interferred with? Why is the human baby so disregarded?

PHYSIOLOGICALLY speaking, ANATOMICALLY speaking, every single aspect of labor, birth, and baby coming to the breast is critical. The pressure on the head, the turning within the pelvis, the pressure on the lungs, the membrane sac in tact, the cord pulsing until placenta delivers, baby being covered in combination of his protective substance and mother's fluids (amniotic fluid, urine, vaginal, and even some feces) as immune protection, the first breastfeeding that re-connects mother and baby and provides a primer for the newborn's guts and intestines, etc. ALL of these are within in the moments that his heart and lungs are transferring from water to air breathing so all other systems can function optimally. Each one is part of a collective, systemic, and physiological purpose for the health and wellbeing of the human being.

Every day it takes compassion and understanding to not see obstetricians and nurses as some of the most ignorant and brutal humans on the planet, and to not see women as the most gullible (also ignorant) and fearful creatures. And, policy makers as the most self-centered and money-driven at the expense of people, especially the newborn. The survival rate in the hospital and in cesarean birth is a testament to the ability of the human being to survive, but at what cost to the physical and emotional health of the human being? DUH!??!??!

When they know what they know and they do it anyway --- that is incomprehensible. It is criminal. If one is not part of the solution, one is part of the problem. It is ignorant to fight so over the safety rate of 1% of the homebirths in this country when the data clearly shows there is not a significant difference between hospital and home. Research in MISSOURI in the late eighties showed that homebirth was safe with trained caregivers. The post is here. The debate is futile BECAUSE of the small numbers. Homebirth has not been shown to be more dangerous with 1% of the total births in this country happening under such conditions of poor quality of care between midwives and doctors/hospitals. The numbers are too small; the obstacles to homebirth too great, too disruptive, and too damaging. Medical rancor makes homebirth more stressful and dangerous.

A post today on titled, Dangers of homebirth says:

"Amber sent me a link to her blog Dangers of Homebirth. She wants other women to know how her homebirth went terribly wrong.

As she says:

"This type of story was not out on the internet when I chose to birth at home and is still not one of the first 10 popup ups on the net. My hope is that someone considering a home birth will read this and become as informed as possible to be the strongest advocate possible for themselves and their baby. I want to be clear that I support the ideas behind midwifery and natural childbirth and that I liked my midwife as a person. While I feel she made some critical errors in judgement, my goal is not persecute but to educate."

I read the blogger's one entry and found a heartbreaking story of a woman who had a terrible hospital birth and wanted something better for her second child. The heartbreak includes a HMO/health insurance nightmare (typical), distance from the hospital, and the always present conflict of anti-homebirth sentiments of the medical system. Informed choice and consent are empty phrases in the care of pregnant, laboring and birthing women and their baby.

The conditions under which midwives practice and women much live with in order to have a homebirth are created by the power-brokers, doctors and hospitals. Homebirth is not safe in the US because it is inherently unsafe, but because of the conditions and lack of access to respectful and quality care.

The blogger states towards the bottom of her article, "I still believe that birth should take place in a peaceful environment, with as little intervention as possible. But I think Midwives and doctors should work together and combine the best of both worlds, nature and science."

She so aptly echoes my charge and mission --- We need a reform of the malpractice laws and of the use of interventions and drugs in birth that keeping leading to the findings of the research published by ACOG itself, all while they systematically beat down midwifery and the women and babies they serve.

No comments:

"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth