The Other Side of the Glass

Part One was officially released June 2013 in digital distribution format. To purchase to to If you were a donor and want to download your copy send an email to

The trailer

Friday, December 15, 2006

Sorry Works

A poster on

"Whether the *victim* of malpractice is said to be 'hysterical' or 'melodramatic', I still don't agree with blaming the victim, especially in ways that seem cold and insensitive. There is such a thing as righteous anger against an injustice. It is important for society in general that this angry be expressed -- spelling errors and all -- so that we can change a broken system. The current system in the USA has many flaws. Hospitals operate under financial constrants, and even good doctors can feel institutionally pressured to perform unnecessary surgery, though certainly not in so many words. The system is also unfair to doctors, that uninformed courts decide malpractice suits instead of medical experts. Yes, sometimes even doctors are the victims, and their indignation is also justified."

Check out the Sorry Works Campaign at It was started in late '04 by a man whose brother died from medical induced cause. The campaign has grown to a national phenomenon and approach to not only avoiding and resolving litigation, but to promoting more humane care of patients in the first place.
The coalition has three goals: 1) educate all stakeholders in the medical malpractice debate about the Sorry Works! approach to reducing liability costs from medical errors; 2) serve as an organizing force and a central clearinghouse for information, news, ideas, and research on Sorry Works! and related full-disclosure efforts; 3) promote and push for the development of Sorry Works! pilot programs in different states

Watch and see -- obstetrics will be last to join on.


Anonymous said...

From Homebirth Debate:

No one may use the name Homebirth Debate in any manner, including in metatags or other devices utilized in any manner designed to divert traffic to a site other than our site without our prior written consent. Any such use will be prosecuted to the fullest extent permitted by law.

Anonymous said...

Dear Amy's Lawyer Husband Who Apparently Has Nothing Better To Do Either: Your wife regularly takes large chunks of other author's blogs and websites for the purposes of diverting traffic from their sites to hers on a regular basis. Get over it, this is how the blogosphere works. DIGG IT?

She is on record on her blog inviting links from other websites as a cheap and free way of bringing traffic to her site. Which is it now?

Safe Baby Partners said...

Won't be the first or the last time a woman supporting the enboldenment of women and the practice of physiological midwifery got persecute... I mean, prosectuted. It's easier than coming up with the research about what is safe for the baby. My observation is that when a midwife is charged it is usually the medical and legal establishment going after her.

My thought too -- about "do I say, not as I do"?? She sure quotes Henci Goer and everyone else -- without permission. I think she ought to be held to her own standards. Maybe Henci and the woman whose personal information she used without informing or persmission can sue her.

She is also always asking for people to debate? Henci won't debate her. She won't debate on this forum.

I don't get how me posting about her here draws traffic here. Don't you have to be here already?

Speaking of which, I am SO GRATEFUL to the men and women of our military who protect, among many, my right to my speech --- so that I can have this blog and share the research that shows that hospital birth is not safe. We know what happened to our sisters once upon a time.

It's what gets the troops through the day --- knowing they are protecting our rights, even if it is to speak against what they are doing. God Bless them. Thanks to my GI JOE and all of them!!

Safe Baby Partners said...

Found it ---

"From Amy Tuteur, MD:


"we regularly ping your blog's Haloscan trackback link and it never shows up on your trackbacks. Any idea why?"

No, since I would be happy to be connected to other blogs. I am always looking for ways to increase traffic without paying for it. Any idea what I am doing wrong?

| Homepage | 12.06.06 - 6:24 pm | # "

So, she only wants to debate 1% of births, rather than the safety of the other 99%? No wonder it's the same discussion over and over and over.

Safe Baby Partners said...

Oh, yeah .... and isn't it telling that the threat was posted on the Sorry Works campaign?? I don't think litigation attornies like the concept.

Safe Baby Partners said...

How is one to know who an anonymous posting is really from?

Heather B. said...

We have every right to say the name when speaking about the site or the author. You need to read the fair use doctrine. It states that for commentary or criticism, quoting brief passages is acceptable.

Moreover, mentioning the name of a website to discuss it (FREEDOM OF SPEECH) or to credit the work of an author OTHER THAN AMY that was posted in her comments is not copyright infringement.

We do not use the name to divert traffic here. People have to ALREADY BE HERE to see that we have mentioned the Homebirth Debate site. Using that phrase in our blog doesn't divert traffic here. People have to come here via other paths to even see that we've used that name.

Moroever, the phrase Homebirth Debate may describe a website but also a topic. That is like trying to tell people they cannot use the name "Abortion Debate." You cannot copyright phrases like that.

In summation, as Homebirth Debate is the name of a blog--not a business--she does not own it. Because it is a common phrase, a term, the name of a debate that rages across the internet, it cannot be copyrighted. Lastly, owning the copyright to something doesn't mean a person isn't allowed to mention that thing--especially if they aren't profitting from it.

We haven't used the name; we have used the phrase, the term that applies to a specific debate. We are no more prohibited from saying homebirth debate than we are from saying abortion debate. You cannot copyright the name of a controversy.

Please read up on copyright law before wasting our time again.

"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
Buy the film at

The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth