The Other Side of the Glass

Part One was officially released June 2013 in digital distribution format. To purchase to to If you were a donor and want to download your copy send an email to

The trailer

Monday, December 04, 2006

A Picture Paints 1000 Words -- Comparing C-section and Homebirth Pics

From Someone, again.:

"No, homebirth is not always about the mother. One of my many reasons for homebirthing is the baby. I believe that it is a safer and more comfortable environment for both of us. Rather than being born into bright lights into the hands of strangers who will poke and prod him, vigorously scrub him, and lay him on cold surfaces, he will be born into a cozy room of dim lights and soft voices into the arms of his mother who will immediately take him to her breast.The risk of complications from C-sections are higher for infants, too. I'm surprised that you don't know that C-section babies are more likely to have breathing problems and a whole world of other issues associated with that birth."

From Safe Baby Partners:

And don't forget the cord cutting before the placenta is birthed so that baby doesn't get his or her placental blood and his or her lungs are forced to breathe in air before fully transitioned, and the coinciding "just in case" resuscitation, followed by eye ointment that interferes with mother-baby eye contact needed for the brain to set off necessary hormones for attachment and bonding, and the shots that come from no where and send them into further shock -- all done in the first minutes of life.

I am surprised too --- the literature abounds with the evidence of lung, asthma, ADHD, ear infections, headaches associated with cesarean birth, not to mention the psycho-social-emotional affects. Everyone but the obstetricians know this? Isn't that odd? Nor do they know of the brain studies and pure logic show us that the birthing baby is a fully sentient, conscious person with a brain that has a billion neurons -- the most in their entire life -- all ready wiring up based on EXPERIENCE with the environment?

Obstetricians seem to earnestly believe that women who choose homebirth are doing so for themselves and that this is "inherently" (to quote her) selfish. In order to justify drugs, interventions, cesarean section, and barbaric treatment in first moments of life, doctors must maintain that the laboring and birthing baby's brain turns into a blob during that "such a short time that it doesn't matter, yet most dangerous even of childhood." (Quoting Dr. Amy.) This is the same baby and same brain, mind you, that in the months before birth and moments after is clearly responding to mother, sounds, temperature, and negotiating the environment. Hmmmmmmmmm.

Three Cesarean birth photos and two homebirth photos follow:

Does this baby have no long term memory or feeling of the experience of her birth, obviously so horrific that her face is mmassively bruised, and does she have no memory (emotions) and no consequence of being separated from her mother for thirteen hours? Or being comforted by her daddy? Is that LOGICAL that the baby is not affected by any of this -- the tragic and the loving?

Or baby being protected by his father at the right -- he doesn't experience or remember this? The nurse who refused the parent's request to wait to do the weighing and measuring and bathing is literally trying to pry his hands from his baby's head while he is asking her, "to please slow down" and "please be gentle" (baby's head malformed from laboring). He refused to allow the baby to ride in a cart and insisted on carrying him. The nurse cried out, "Can he do that?" and the surgical nurse said, "Yes, it's his son."

Back in recovery dad holds him and comforts him and (right) when mom is ready we support baby and mom to do the "Self Attachment Sequence."

Or my own grandson, born by cesarean, her below. A masked stranger with gloved hands is holding him up naked in a cold surgicall suite. Is this baby not obviously FEELING something? Anger, fear, frustration? "GET YOUR HANDS OFF ME?" perhaps, or just "wheeeeere is my mama?" That's all a newborn wants -- to see, smell, hear, and be touched by his mama. She was in recovery on the surgical floor because OB didn't have a bed for her -- a planned cesarean for breech presentation even!? He is alone, naked until his dad had a fit and insisted they be together. FOR YEARS, he was terrified to have his mother out of her sight. Notice how red his face is compared to his body -- this is thought to be the effect of drugs in the healing field.

Animals in the wild treat their young with more respect.


Baby left was born at home in Chicago, IL and attended by midwives, nurse, and physicians from "Home First" as was his older brother.

Baby is less than half-hour old, no unnecessary interventions such as weighing, bathing, and shots have been done. He has just completed the self-attachment process -- mother supports baby to crawl to breast to attach.

Newborn boy (with big Sister) to right is the fifth child born at home to a physician who ran a Family Practice and Birth Center in Columbia, MO.

Compare his condition and expression to the first baby's -- how could birth experience not matter?

No comments:

"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
Buy the film at

The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth