The Other Side of the Glass

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Monday, March 19, 2007

What Every Human Baby Needs

What Every Human Baby Needs
by L. Janel Martin-Miranda, MA c2005
The early preconception through postnatal period -- the primal period -- is now scientifically confirmed to be the origin of health and illness; wellness and dysfunctions; joy and pain; and fear and love in the human being. Scientifically and logically, there is no break in the continuum of brain development from conception through birth, infancy, childhood, and adult life. Therefore, it's easy to see that the resolution of any health or emotional issues related to where and how birth is safe, must look at the pre and perinatal development, fetal experience, and birthing baby's experience, based on what a human being needs at each stage.

What every baby needs in the earliest BRAIN development - from conception throughout pregnancy, birth, and beyond - in order to live his or her highest potential is:
  • To be wanted and welcomed at conception by two loving adults who are physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially prepared to be parents
  • To have complete nutrition and a toxin-free womb in order to build a healthy, fully functioning brain and body
  • To feel safe and protected by parents, and without stress throughout pregnancy and birth
  • To be connected with and nurtured by parents throughout pregnancy, at birth, and beyond
  • To have his or her own biologically programmed impulse and timing for birth while in continued relationship with the mother and safety of the father
  • To complete the biologically programmed “self-attachment” sequence of coming to the breast in his or her own timing – resting in the arms of the mother and father, without interventions

It's the baby's birth. Birth is the baby's experience of coming into this world. It is not just the mother's. It is not the doctor's so why is malpractice and control of the process allowed in this society? Obstetric, pediatric, nursing, psychology, and midwifery training do not involve teaching the effects of the earliest experience of the human brain.

Clearly, a baby needs to be conceived, gestated, and born into a world that is welcoming, safe, nuturing, and loving - rather than being unwanted, violent, abandoned, and poorly nourished. This is not only logical but scientifically based. A baby needs a drug-free, peaceful birth in connection with his or her mother. Because it matters. In the brain. Pun intended.

The newborn baby's brain has more than a billion neurons and each one is experiencing the labor and birth experience and the new world. Everyone present during labor and birth, everything said and done by them is imprinted in each of these billion cells. It creates the first perception of the world. Imprinting of maternal experience has been happening in the developing baby's system since conception. Science tells us that the gestating baby's body and brain is fully formed by the end of the first trimester. From conception forward the baby, as every living organism, is developing and surviving in struggle between growth or protection. Of course, from conception forward, the baby is growing, developing, and learning. Science tells us that babies are highly sensory. For example, they hear and interact with the outside womb, especially in the last trimester.

Our medical, religious, psychological and educational systems need to acknowledge, teach, and address the primal development period – and the effects what we do and say on the needs in the fetus, birthing baby, growing infant and child, in the teenager or adult, and in their intimate relationships. We logically know we can affect another, such as a child, but we must begin to recognize how we can affect a gestating and laboring baby as well.

Our highest potential is unrecognized – 90% of people born in the United States were born under the influence of drugs and with violent experiences and touch (induced, forceps, rough handling during and after birth, separation from the mother, etc.) I am asking you expand your thinking to also consider how we treat conception, pregnancy, and what we are doing to babies during labor and birth and the first hours and days of life. No other period of time is so critical as the pre-conception through infancy period of life.


Tricia said...


Thank you for this post. I am currently starting a corporation here in Illinois called Gentle Begining, Inc. As I start out I will be focusing on Childbirth Education and Doula Services. Ideally I would like to be so much more...eventually Non-Profit and country/worldwide. I have been trying to rally support for the very thing you're writing about here. I believe life to be a circle, and anytime the circle gets broken a person goes off on a tangent. I also believe if we took care of our pregnant moms and their offspring we could almost completely alleviate the need for prisons and drug rehab in this country (just two examples). I am an Early Childhood Specialist and a college professor (ECE and Elementary Ed) and it baffles me how Early Childhood Development seemingly ignores preconception through birth as important times in the development of a child.

I wonder if we can work together in some way??

Baby Keeper said...

Hi, Tricia -- you have my email, right? Please email me.

Yes, it is so amazing to me how our society ignores conception and labor and birth as important -- as much as gestation. Addiction theories, studies, and treatment do not even consider the use of drugs at birth, especially narcotics. ?!??! Do you know of the Infant Parent Institute in Champaign, IL? The Ex Director, Michael Trout, is a an infant mental health person and a great guy. Also a memeber of APPPAH,

You mention the CIRCLE breaking down --- SO INTERESTING that we do look at the birthing process as circular process. The BABY starts labor by sending a hormonal signal to the mother's body to begin labor. The baby and mother need to work in connection throughout labor -- baby's feet with mother's uterus. The baby is the PILOT and needs to have her biological impulse throughout the labor. Drugs and interventions, and people interrupt this. Baby needs to complete the CIRCLE at birth by having completing the self-attachment process --- crawling, with support to the mother's breast. Whereever we have breaks in that circle is where we have what you call tangents.

Thanks for the post! Email me.

"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

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Colin speaks out about interventions at birth