The Other Side of the Glass

Part One was officially released June 2013 in digital distribution format. To purchase to to If you were a donor and want to download your copy send an email to

The trailer

Friday, January 12, 2007

Shoulder dystocia and spinning babies

From the website: Click below to go to pdf file showing how to resolve shoulder dystocia.

Often the words "failure to progress," "lack of progress" or "the baby's too big" are said when the baby's head is simply not in the best angle to fit the pelvis. There can be other reasons, too, slow labor is not always from the baby's position. But fetal position is one of the most common reasons for a slow or stalled labor. Too often, there is a misunderstanding of what is needed in birth. Changing positions randomly isn't always enough when the baby needs help to reposition the angle of the head in the pelvis. Sometimes specific help is needed at the brim, the midpelvis and/or the pelvic outlet. Sometimes it is the ligaments, not the size of the bones that lengthens labor. Often when we suddenly find the right thing to do the baby comes quickly.

A "sunny-side up baby," one facing the front (occiput posterior), fits less easily than a baby in the occiput anterior position (facing mother's back). The posterior position makes the baby's head seem bigger when moving through the pelvis. If a baby starts labor with his or her back on the right, or along the mother's own spine, labor may be longer and might even need a doctor's intervention to finish the birth with Pitocin IV, a vacuum and/or by cesarean. There may be some things you can do that reduces the chance of these medical interventions. Other posterior babies come out with less fuss. Read why this happens by clicking on Labor and Birth in the left margin and seeing "Myths about Posterior Labors" right at the top.

Gravity works 24/7. The positions a woman rests in through pregnancy, her posture and her choices in movement interact with the condition of her muscles, ligaments and pelvic joints have much influence on the course of labor--sometimes as early as the end of the first trimester. But, patience, nurturing support and belief are so important in labor, too.

What makes Spinning Babies unique is the step by step approach to the topic of Optimal Fetal Positioning. The techniques can be found around the world, but "what to do when" is found right here. Your labor can be shorter and less painful, easier in other words, than if you don't prepare your body with these easy to do activities.

Resolving Shoulder Dystocia

Resolving Shoulder Dystocia in the Active, Mobile Woman

Many women being attended by midwives, and all women having home birth, are alert and active while giving birth. They can move freely and adapt positions, if needed, to complete the birth. Midwives are mostly women and women have different upper body strength than men. Midwives, and also doctors who are helping a non-drugged birthing women, have the option to put the mother's mobile pelvis to work for them should the head be born and the shoulders get stuck in the pelvis.

It's a good idea if mothers know these things (especially women planning an unassisted birth) as well as midwives. It helps them to be knowledgeable, to trust, and to be confident in the caregiver.


Housefairy said...

As a woman who has had homebirth, hospital vaginal birth, and 2 c-sections, I can tell you, the idea that women can/should possibly labor in a BED just blows my mind. Blows it away.

You have to move, you must move. During my VBAC homebirth of my 11 pound son, I was on hands and knees almost the entire time---it didnt even occur to me that I was doing it, but Im sure glad I did, and was able to crawl around my house like a crazy cat-mama! Can you imagine doing that in a hospital? I dont think it would have even occured to me to do so, embarassment, fear, "protocol", would have certainly hampered everything, not to mention touching that nasty pathogenic floor...

Baby Keeper said...

You are the person I would listen to if I were a pregnant woman. You have had it all. WOW.

No, I can't imagine doing that in a hospital. Even if society began to see the dire consequences of using drugs in birth and "allowed" women to move freely, I can't imagine you being able to do that. There is just something about being in your own space.

Gosh, even a beloved family mama cat will find the spot she feels safe and comfortable in -- away from the family.

Sometimes, I think the biggest miracle of birth these days is that a woman can actually do it in a hospital.

I love the imagine of you as a mama cat laboring. Yes, I think it would have occured to you in your body --- it's called "biolgical impulse." You would have been blocked and "stuffed" or "drugged" to keep your impulses controlled. This is what I believe is the deep, unnamed source of anger and powerlessness for many women.

Thanks for your email.

"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth