The Other Side of the Glass

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The trailer

Tuesday, November 28, 2006

It's all about the baby, the baby-mama dyad.

Dr. Amy:

“For me, it's all about the baby, the baby-mama dyad. The process is just not all that important. I think most women also feel that way. They don't find anything enjoyable about labor. It's not about the contractions, it's not about coping mechanisms, it's not about positions, it's about the moment when the mother and baby first meet. When I think about the days when my own children were born, I don't really think much about the labors, I think about the thrill of meeting and getting to know a new person. Frankly, if I could have skipped labor altogether (without having surgery, either) I would have been happy to do so.”

Safe Baby Partners:

Wow, this explains a lot of why Dr. Amy can not understand how important the experience of laboring and birthing one's baby is for many, many women. There really is not the ability to debate homebirth if one feels so numb about birth.

Later Dr. Amy says:

Therefore, for example, when a OB nurse offers you an epidural, she is not trying to sabotage you, she is offering you what she would want for herself.

Safe Baby Partner:

And, this OB nurse is one of many brainwashed believers and deliverer of a narcotic drug to a laboring NEWBORN BRAIN and mother -- a drug that has NEVER been shown to be safe for the newborn baby. Truly, the fact that OB's and RN's would use them even for themselves tells our society just how "drug-impaired" obstetrics and our society is.

THIS IS THE POINT – and that both medical caregivers and those who insist that birth is the woman’s choice won’t discuss. -- OBSTETRICS is not an evidenced-based field of medicine. It is full of obstetric, medical folklore, based on Newtonian science, now known to be as relevant as the earth is flat and the earth is the center of the universe.

So, HOW is it she is “all about the baby” as she refuses to look at the multiple fields of scientific study showing that the newborn is fully sentient, present being and physiologically, emotionally, and spiritually is affected by every moment of labor and birth being. Dr. Amy and some posters, such as Angela continue to refute any of the science in attachment theory and brain development that says the experience of labor, birth, and reconnecting with the mother is the single most significant event in their relationship. EVERYTHING else will be seen and felt by the baby through this profound experience of leaving the mother’s body – in the brain.


Despite what you claim, Amy, I believe that this blog is about bashing women who make a choice that you don't like. Considering homebirth is (as you constantly point out) such an uncommon choice in America (and in most of the developed world) and not sought by many women, I wonder why you devote so much of your energy to fighting it. Surely there are causes you could take on that would have a positive impact on a much greater number of women. Even if you doubt the extent and impact of poor obstetric practice, the much greater number of women giving birth in hospital means that it affects vastly more women and babies than homebirth ever will. So why the obsession with homebirth?

Safe Baby Partners:
Good question.

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"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

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