The Other Side of the Glass

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The trailer

Friday, March 14, 2008

The Mother's Act

Have you heard about the new proposed legislation, The Mother's Act.

Be afraid ... be very afraid ... and then rise up and make your voices heard .... on behalf of all mothers and babies and families.

SC 1375: Mom's Opportunity to Access Health, Eduction, Research, and Support for Postpartum Depression Act.

"A bill to ensure new mothers and their families are educated about postpartum depression, screened for symptoms, and provided with essential services, and to increase research at the National Institutes of Health on postpartum depression."

That last phase is KEY PHRASE ... "and to increase research at the NIH on postpartum depression."  Here we go again ... women and babies are going to be UNINFORMED and NON-CONSENTING research subjects.  

Lord of Mercy, folks, this is terrifyingly wrong.  Track this bill at:
(Sorry, I can't link this with html code as I am on the road and using someone else's MAC and having difficulty with functions I am not familiar with.  I will fix it when I arrive at a destination tonight where I will have wireless connection.)

Even within the document itself it is recognized that the incidence of postpartum depression is moderate ... and yet all women will be subjected to anti-depressants during pregnancy? We already know that anti-depressant contribute to fetal heart abnormalities. 

"Baby blues afflicts up to 80 percent of new mothers, postpartum depression occurs in 10 to 20 percent of new mothers, and postpartum psychosis strikes 1 in 1,000 new mothers."

So, a one-size-fits-all research project will not likely look at what causes new mothers to be blue (WHERE does the 80% come from anyway? Perhaps a paradigm shift is order? A shift to seeing that new mothers are not being served well in this modern world that requires them to go back to work within weeks, for example? This project will likely not focus on "alternatives" (the ways that have worked for eons) and will not see themselves (medicine and psychiatry) as the real and recent "alternative".  So, then, this project will not consider what has and did work, nor will they attempt to figure out a non-medical, non-intervention, non-drug answer, like, oh ... say ... paid maternal leave for one or two years like every other industrialized nation, or, oh, yeah ... what about a mother and baby centered model of care during birth that normalizes and naturalizes birth, gives decision-making to mother and father, and provides the social and systemic support.  No, they are going to do what they always do ... treat the masses who don't need it with the cure that doesn't even work well for the few who do need it. 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I will be revisiting my Safe Baby Resolution that was introduced in Hawaii last year. ( It supports social and financial support to be focused on the early, primal period where the baby is built to survive in a particular environment. It asks legislators to look at the current, compelling research such as the high incidence of depression related to medical interventions and disruptions, and to cesarean birth.  It is insane to not create the safety net for birthing women during the primal periods and to then focus on resolving the consequences with drugs and psychiatry.  The research exists to tell us much about depression in postpartum -- drugs and medical interventions are the cause. Good Lord ....   I smell big Pharm.


The sponsor of the bill is New Jersey Senator, Robert Menendez. Co-sponsors are Durbin (IL has been talking about this for awhile), Snowe, Brown, Dodd, and Lautenberg.  I had heard that Obama was a co-sponsor.  He does not appear on the document.

Learn more about him at:

Contact him and let him know what you think about this proposed legislation to treat all women like depressed chattel at:

317 Senate Hart Office Building
Washington, DC  20510
202.228.2197 (fax)

One Gateway Cneter,
Suite, 1100
Newark, NY  07102
973.645.0502 (fax)

208 White Horse Pike, Suite 18
Barrington, NJ 08007
856.546.1528 (fax)

Let him know what you think of this proposed legislation ... that could further disempower women and hurt babies in so many ways.  There is no reason to mass-treat healthy women, to force them into mental health services and drug therapy that we know do not work, but do further harm.  When I say, "do not work" I mean do not heal the source of the depression nor the symptoms of the depression for most people and we know that drugs have serious side affects.  These drugs should be shown safe for the baby and mother -- heart, liver, brain functioning is impaired by the use of these drugs and should not be used during pregnancy. What are these people thinking? Oh, yeah ... I forgot ... they are getting rich from their money from big Pharm. 

People who are not building a human being who will live their whole lives with the consequences of the side effects (the baby) and who take these meds may minimize some of their symptoms and even become more functional, but rarely are people symptom free and rarely is the quality of their life greatly improved. Their "normal" is typically still far from normal. However, we have non-drug and non-invasive techniques, based in energy psychology and spirituality that are proving more effective.  Do we really want to see all pregnant women forced into the medical, psychiatric drug world? So a few senators and drug companies and all of their cronies can get richer?

Just Say No to Drugs .... and say YES to your Baby.

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"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth