The Other Side of the Glass

Part One was officially released June 2013 in digital distribution format. To purchase to to If you were a donor and want to download your copy send an email to

The trailer

Saturday, April 07, 2007

Support Jonathan Smalley to Go Home

I have created another blog, and I will working on this blog this week. Even though it absolutely relates to making birth safe, Jonathan deserves his own blog and I hope to achieve national attention for him. Another blogger has created for his grandmother.

Jonathan Smalley is a six year-old boy who was taken into custody by the Division of Family and Children Services in Tulsa, Ok this week. His grandmother, Doris Garretson, a friend of mine, was arrested on kidnapping charges. I have been an advocate for Jonathan and Doris since his birth as she attempted to access services for Jonathan in a medical system and DCFS system that would not help.
Read the recent news story from Tulsa:

The picture here and the narrative below are from my website:
(This goes right along with my previous post quoting Tuteur as saying babies are not affected by birth.)

The Peoria baby shown above was born with vacuum extraction after being stuck in the mother’s pelvis for hours. He was induced in the morning, and in the late afternoon (just before crowning) his labor was stalled to accommodate the physician (who went to choir practice and returned later for the delivery). The baby's head is obviously seriously misshapen, with major overrides of his cranial bones. He is now severely developmentally disabled.

The Hippocratic Oath mandates and the Mother-Friendly principles support that a physician "Do no harm." Click
here to read comments by two physicians about the Hippocratic Oath and how medical education leads to such practices.

The best way to PREVENT the use of vacuum extraction is to plan and prepare for a natural DRUG-FREE Birth!!

The FDA issued a
warning about the use of vacuum extraction in May, 1998. In addition to specifics about injuries and an “increased number of deaths and the following major types of complications: subgaleal hemorrhage, cephalohematoma, and intracranial hemorrhage,” it states, “The Safe Medical Devices Act of 1990 requires hospitals and other user facilities to report deaths, serious illnesses, and injuries associated with the use of medical devices.” In July 2002, an Obstetrics and Gynecology Devices Panel met and discussed the warning and consequential research was presented. At this meeting the research, led by an obstetrician in Arizona, was reported. It states, “that the number of deaths and serious injuries associated with VAD has steadily declined. Meanwhile, the use of VAD has continued to rise.” The injuries and medical complications above were noted to have increased and it was not attributed to vacuum extraction. He said, “the results indicate that injuries were unlikely to be related simply to a problem with the vacuum devices.” There was no mention of the practice of giving inducing hormones to women who arrive at the hospital and are not in real labor, of the planned inducing with hormones, and of the combined practice of inducing and epidural anesthesia that is known to cascade into the complications identified.

On Emedicine, is an article
“Birth Trauma,” by Nirupama Laroia, MD, Director of Special Care Nursery, Assistant Profession, Department of Pediatrics, Division of Neonatalogy, Children’s Hospital at Strong and University of Rochester.

Dr. Laroia reports, “Subgaleal hematoma is bleeding in the potential space between the skull periosteum and the scalp galea aponeurosis. Ninety percent of cases result from vacuum applied to the head at delivery. Subgaleal hematoma has a high frequency of occurrence of associated head trauma (40%), such as intracranial hemorrhage or skull fracture. The occurrence of these features does not correlate significantly with the severity of subgaleal hemorrhage." Dr. Laroia provides information on many types of birth trauma.
Obviously babies are effected for life by birth. We know this when they are obviously, clearly physically harmed as Jonathan was and yet, the family has to fight for services. But is it reasonable to believe an obstetrician who demands that what they do is harmless and that the HUMAN BEING will not be affected or remember it? Is it reasonable to not hold physicians and nurses accountable? Why is a grandmother of a disabled children seeking services for him seen as the child's problem when he has slow weight gain, can not walk, or talk?

This child, Jonathan, has a special place in my heart ---
Please visit Jonathan's site this week ---

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"Soft is the heart of a child. Do not harden it."

A public awareness reminder that things that happen behind the scenes, out of our sight, aren't always as rosy as we might think them to be. Perhaps its a restaurant cook who accidentally drops your burger on the floor before placing it on the bun and serving it to you. Here it's an overworked apathetic (pathetic) nurse giving my newborn daughter her first bath. Please comment and rate this video, so as to insure that it is viewed as widely as possible, perhaps to prevent other such abuse. -- The mother who posted this YouTube. How NOT to wash a baby on YouTube Are you going to try to tell me that "babies don't remember?" There is no difference to this baby's experience and the imprinting of her nervous system/brain and one that is held and cleaned by the mother or father either at the hospital or at home? By the way, this is probably NOT the baby's first bath. The nurse is ungloved. Medical staff protocol is that they can't handle a baby ungloved until is has been bathed (scrubbed if you've seen it) because the baby is a BIO-HAZARD -- for them. Never mind that the bio-hazard IS the baby's first line of defense against hospital germs.

Missouri Senator Louden Speaks

Finally, A Birth Film for Fathers

Part One of the "The Other Side of the Glass: Finally, A Birth Film for and about Men" was released June, 2013.

Through presentation of the current research and stories of fathers, the routine use of interventions are questioned. How we protect and support the physiological need of the human newborn attachment sequence is the foundation for creating safe birth wherever birth happens.

Based on knowing that babies are sentient beings and the experience of birth is remembered in the body, mind, and soul, fathers are asked to research for themselves what is best for their partner and baby and to prepare to protect their baby.

The film is designed for midwives, doulas, and couples, particularly fathers to work with their caregivers. Doctors and nurses in the medical environment are asked to "be kind" to the laboring, birthing baby, and newborn. They are called to be accountable for doing what science has been so clear about for decades. The mother-baby relationship is core for life. Doctors and nurses and hospital caregivers and administrators are asked to create protocols that protect the mother-baby relationship.

Men are asked to join together to address the vagaries of the medical system that harm their partner, baby and self in the process of the most defining moments of their lives. Men are asked to begin to challenge the system BEFORE they even conceive babies as there is no way to be assured of being able to protect his loved ones once they are in the medical machine, the war zone, on the conveyor belt -- some of the ways that men describe their journey into fatherhood in the medicine culture.

Donors can email to get a digital copy.
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The film focuses on the male baby, his journey from the womb to the world and reveals healing and integrating the mother, father, and baby's wounded birth experience. The film is about the restoring of our families, society, and world through birthing loved, protected, and nurtured males (and females, of course). It's about empowering males to support the females to birth humanity safely, lovingly, and consciously.

Finally, a birth film for fathers.

What People Are Saying About the FIlm

Well, I finally had a chance to check out the trailer and .. wow! It's nice that they're acknowledging the father has more than just cursory rights (of course mom's rights are rarely acknowledged either) and it's great that they're bringing out the impact of the experience on the newborn, but I'm really impressed that they're not shying away from the political side.

They are rightly calling what happens in every American maternity unit, every day, by its rightful name - abuse. Abuse of the newborn, abuse of the parents and their rights, abuse of the supposedly sacrosanct ethical principal of patient autonomy and the medico-legal doctrine of informed consent, which has been long ago discarded in all but name. I love it!

In the immortal words of the "shrub", "bring it on!" This film needs to be shown and if I can help facilitate or promote it, let me know.

Father in Asheville, NC

OMG'ess, I just saw the trailer and am in tears. This is so needed. I watch over and over and over as fathers get swallowed in the fear of hospitals birth practice. I need a tool like this to help fathers see how very vital it is for them to protect their partner and baby. I am torn apart every time I see a father stand back and chew his knuckle while his wife is essentially assaulted or his baby is left to lie there screaming.
Please send me more info!!!!
Carrie Hankins
CD(DONA), CCCE, Aspiring Midwife

Thanks for sharing this. It was very touching to me. I thought of my brother-in-law standing on the other side of the glass when my sister had to have a C-section with her first child because the doctor was missing his golf date. I'll never forget his pacing back and forth and my realizing that he was already a father, even though he hadn't been allowed to be with his son yet.

Margaret, Columbia, MO

In case you don't find me here

Soon, I'll be back to heavy-duty editing and it will be quiet here again. I keep thinking this blog is winding down, and then it revives. It is so important to me.

I wish I'd kept a blog of my journey with this film this past 10 months. It's been amazing.

I have a new blog address for the film, and will keep a journal of simple reporting of the journey for the rest of the film.

I'll be heading east this week to meet with a group of men. I plan to post pictures and clips on the film blog.

I'll keep up here when I can -- when I learn something juicy, outrageous, or inspiring related to making birth safer for the birthing baby.

Review of the film

Most of us were born surrounded by people who had no clue about how aware and feeling we were. This trailer triggers a lot of emotions for people if they have not considered the baby's needs and were not considered as a baby. Most of us born in the US were not. The final film will include detailed and profound information about the science-based, cutting-edge therapies for healing birth trauma.

The full film will have the interviews of a wider spectrum of professionals and fathers, and will include a third birth, at home, where the caregivers do a necessary intervention, suctioning, while being conscious of the baby.

The final version will feature OBs, RNs, CNMs, LM, CPM, Doulas, childbirth educators, pre and perinatal psychologists and trauma healing therapists, physiologists, neurologists, speech therapists and lots and lots of fathers -- will hopefully be done in early 2009.

The final version will include the science needed to advocated for delayed cord clamping, and the science that shows when a baby needs to be suctioned and addresses other interventions. Experts in conscious parenting will teach how to be present with a sentient newborn in a conscious, gentle way -- especially when administering life-saving techniques.

The goal is to keep the baby in the mother's arms so that the baby gets all of his or her placental blood and to avoid unnecessary, violating, and abusive touch and interactions. When we do that, whether at home or hospital, with doctor or midwife, the birth is safe for the father. The "trick" for birthing men and women is how to make it happen in the hospital.

Birth Trauma Healing

Ani DeFranco Speaks About Her Homebirth

"Self-Evident" by Ani DeFranco

Patrick Houser at

Colin speaks out about interventions at birth